Update: Blog and Health/Fitness Journey

A little while ago now I wrote a post about how I tend to be a quitter. I start things and the moment they get hard, I give up. I stop trying. I don’t like feeling like I’m failing so I give up or sometimes I don’t even start things that I want to do because I just don’t know exactly how it’s gonna work out. But isn’t that what life is all about?…not knowing what tomorrow holds…giving it your all TODAY. I committed to keeping up with my health/fitness and my blog in that post (make sure to go check it out if you haven’t already). So here is a little update…

Blog:

I haven’t posted twice a week like I originally would have liked, BUT I also shared that I wanted to post when I felt like I had something to say and NOT just because I felt like I had to. That was what got me stopped for 4 months to begin with. So far, I have kept up with posting when I feel like there is something that I want to share. I have also kept up with keeping my Facebook page up to date. There are times that I don’t feel like writing an entire post but I do want to write a small something. So, if you don’t follow me on Facebook, you might want to check that out 🙂

I truly love this blog and the purpose behind why it was created (you can read about that here). I love getting to share with you and be real. I love going to read other people’s blogs and read about their lives-the beautiful and the messy. It helps me know that I’m not alone, and neither are you!

Health/Fitness:

Last July I was at the Iowa Balloon Festival in Indianola, IA. My father-in-law announces the different balloons and the whole experience is just so neat! This was Sadie’s first time seeing all of the different balloons and it was extremely hot but we were having a great time. We of course took pictures (I want to remember these things) and as I was looking back at some of the pictures I was very unhappy with how I looked and how I felt. I was 5 months postpartum and I felt like I was struggling. I follow a blog called Mommy’s Me Time. The post for that day was Amber’s story of why she started the 21 Day Fix. Her reasons fit me to a T. I felt like this could be my answer to feeling better about myself.

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Brad and I had a long discussion over what the 21 Day Fix was and would I really be committed to doing it. I agreed that it’s something I struggle with (notice this is a recurring thing for me) but I was desperate to just feel better about myself. He said if I committed to sticking with it for one whole round-which is only 21 days-then he was perfectly fine with spending the money. You guys, this was the BEST money I’ve spent in a long time!!

I kept up with the workouts until about mid-January when I hurt my back. I was giving it a break (because I didn’t want to push it and hurt myself worse) when I found out that I was pregnant. The morning sickness and overall feeling crappy that sometimes comes with the first trimester kept me from getting back into it. Once the second trimester rolled around I started some sort of workout routine for myself that included walking and swimming. Once this crazy hot weather showed up, the walking came to a halt but I have invested in the PiYo workout from Beachbody which is AMAZING for this pregnant lady!! The stretching is a good workout for me and is doing wonders for my ligaments and muscles that seem to be getting tight these days.

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My progress from the first day of starting the 21 Day Fix in August of 2015 to the beginning of January 2016.

The eating part is always the biggest struggle for me. I have a friend who is a Beachbody coach is truly inspiring! I love the encouragement she gives and how real and open she is. She’s not afraid to share the hard with you while encouraging you to push past it to see the beautiful that’s right around the corner. If you are wanting some encouragement as well, I’d highly recommend finding her on Facebook by searching for @mollymcginleyfitness. She has a virtual bootcamp that starts next Monday. I’m using this opportunity as an extra way to keep me accountable with my workouts and more specifically with my eating. I’m actually so excited that I have really started trying to make changes this week.

I have a long journey ahead of me but I know it’s going to be worth it!! I’m going to keep sharing my health and fitness story with you here and in smaller excerpts on my Facebook page. I’m determined to finish out this pregnancy strong for the health of Emery and myself and to have a jump start for my postpartum recovery. I really want to honor the body that God has given me. I want to be the best version of myself for God, myself, Brad and our kids. Honestly, I know this is going to be a game changer for me and I’m REFUSING to let anything stop me for good. I will continue to set goals for myself and I will continue to reach them.

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26 weeks pregnant and recommitting to drinking Shakeology daily and doing PiYo workouts every day. It’s already impacting myself and Sadie and that is HUGE to me!!

 

Make sure to keep checking in and see how my journey goes. Maybe you’ll decide to make some life changing decisions for yourself along the way. You never know how God can use something 🙂

Thank you for being people that I can be accountable too. Accountability is crucial for me and I’m so glad you are here on this journey with me! Have a great day friends!

 

kylie

Real Talk: Today was a Hard Day, Until…

I’m not gonna lie, today did not have the best start to it for my Sadie girl and I. She just really wasn’t in the mood to listen to ANYTHING  I had to say. If I told her no, she would stop for a second and then do it all over again. ALL. MORNING. LONG. Today started as a very hard day.

Seriously….I was OVER IT!!!!

Thankfully God gave me the idea to just get out of the house. Sometimes this comes easier to me than other times. Some days, if I can’t get anyone to go with me or meet me somewhere, I just won’t go. Today I never once even felt like that was an option. As soon as the idea to get out of the house came to my mind, I knew it was God prompting me.

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So I went ahead and sent out a text to some friends to see if they would like to join Sadie and I at the library but they were busy doing other things. Today, I refused to let that stop me. I got us dressed and off we went. This was the BEST decision for us. She had a wonderful time watching the other kids play and doing some playing of her own. Observing others is really probably her favorite part though. After awhile the other kids started to leave but we chose to stay. Our library has an outdoor fenced in patio and she was showing some interest in going outside. We haven’t been doing a lot of that lately around here because it is HOT AND HUMID!!! But…today the patio looked mostly shaded and there was a breeze so I decided, why not?!

Outside we went. I got to sit in an Adirondack chair while she wandered the patio and played with chalk. We were the only ones out there so I didn’t have to constantly get up to make sure she was playing nice and sharing. I just got to sit and enjoy watching her play and use her brain as she came up with new things to do with just chalk and some Adirondack chairs.

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I truly do love getting to just watch her play. Her imagination and thoughts are already so great and I know they will continue to get better and better.

I was thankful for this time because it gave me a chance to just watch her without any distractions that I normally have at home. I got to appreciate her independence without the lack of patience that I feel like I’ve had lately. My frustrations were gone from this morning and I could just sit back and ENJOY my little girl.

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It just became even more clear to me that this was a gift from God. An idea that led me to a better day. We finished off our morning with a quick trip to Target for some Starbucks (a HUGE thank you to my brother and sister-in-law for that awesome gift) and the dollar section where I got Sadie a light up ball for just a dollar (got to love cheap entertainment!).

We came home, both of us in a MUCH better mood, and ate some lunch and then Sadie went down for a nap. I hadn’t had my quiet time yet today so I knew I needed to use her nap time to really get that in for myself. Well, I just finished the study I was doing yesterday but God gave me the idea to start it over. I have a mom’s bible study that meets at my house once a week and we are doing this study. I decided I didn’t want to start something new while doing this but maybe I should go BACK through it and see what I learn this time around. So I opened up my journal and did Week 1 Day 1. I loved doing it through my journal because it allowed me the space to process some of my thoughts and write out prayers. This study is called Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs. I LOVE everything about this study. Seriously…it really challenges me.

Today I took the time to find peace in God again and look for the lovely things around me. I want my perspective to change. I want to stop just going through life with blinders on and just trying to reach the end and I want to start looking around me as I move forward. I want to notice the amazing things God is doing around me.

So here is my list of Lovely things today. My #lookingforlovely list:

-a library with toys and activities for Sadie

-the dollar section at Target

-places to go that cost little to no money but get Sadie and I out of the house

-Sadie laying her head on my chest on the way inside after our trip (she fell asleep on the way home)

-a date night with Brad tonight, just the two of us (long overdue!!!)

-a shaded place to play outside that didn’t feel so hot (thank you breeze!!)

-nap times that give me time for myself to rest and connect with my heavenly father

-friends and family I can turn to for prayers

-the idea to keep doing this study but through my journal instead of the workbook

 

Friends, look for the lovely around you today. Don’t let Satan steal your joy. Find the things that God is placing in front of you and around you and focus on those. This day doesn’t have to be one that you wish away. You still have a chance to turn it around and make it a great day!

kylie

2 Kids Under 2

For those of you that don’t know, my amazing husband and I are expecting another child in October. Actually, we are expecting ANOTHER precious baby girl. We are going to have 2 kids under 2!! Two LITTLE GIRLS under the age of two!! So crazy!

We have recently decided on a name, Emery. I love this name! I love having a name picked out for her already. I love calling her by name when I talk about her and pray for her. I love being able to talk about BOTH of my girls by their names, the ones that I KNOW God has chosen for them.

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We found out back in February that we were pregnant and I was both thrilled and terrified. More often than not now, my feelings of excitement overshadow my feelings of fear. But…those afraid feelings come back at times.

I am going to be a mom to a 20 month old and a newborn. WHAT?!?!?!? How on earth do people do this??

How can I love 2 little girls as much as they need me to?

How can I take care of both of them all day all by myself while Brad is at work?

How can I meet both of their needs when they happen at the same time?

What will happen to my relationship with my precious Sadie, my firstborn, the one who made me a mama?

What will my relationship with Emery look like? I can’t focus on her like I focused on Sadie as a newborn because I’ll have a toddler to keep up with this time around.

What will Brad and I’s relationship look like with two kiddos to take care?

How am I going to be able to keep up with my active Sadie girl after multiple sleepless nights with Emery?

What’s going to happen to me? To the time that I need by myself in order to be the best mama I can be?The one that God has called me to be?

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You guys, these fears are real, but God is showing me that its not okay to dwell on them. I have no idea what my future will look like, even tomorrow! But thank the Lord, HE DOES!!!! He has blessed me with another little angel because HE KNOWS that I can do it. He has equipped ME to do this very job.

No one in the entire world can do what I can do for these two little girls.

I know that there are rough and hard roads ahead. I also know that there are sweet and amazing and precious roads ahead. My God, the only God, is a great Father. He knows exactly what He has in store for me and my family. He has already mapped out the hard times that I’m going to have and HOW I’m going to grow stronger because of those times. (Jeremiah 29:11)

The Bible study I’m doing right now, Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs is already preparing my heart so much for what is coming. I know that God led me in this direction to help prepare me. He never promised that life would be easy. Only that He would never leave me to do it alone.

Without those hard days, my character wouldn’t develop, grow and strengthen in the way that it needs to. And so, I am choosing RIGHT NOW to REJOICE through those hard times. (Please remind me of this when I start to complain and whine). Those sleepless nights and exhausted days. I am going to look for the LOVELY right in front of me. The tiny little humans that God has given to ME. And I am going to love them for all that I’m worth!

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Photo Credit: Melissa McCullough Photography I can’t wait to do a Mommy and Me session with BOTH of my girls next year!

 

I would love to hear from any other mamas of two kiddos-no matter their ages or the age difference between them. I would love to hear any encouragement that you have or advice on how you got through those tough days. Scripture, encouraging words, stories, anything like that! Also, if you have a blog post that goes along with this, leave that in the comments. I’d love to read about how other mama’s are doing it!! Please comment below…you never know who else you could reach and encourage with your words other than just me.

kylie

 

Real Talk: I’m a Quitter and I Hate It!

Hey everyone.

It’s been awhile. A long while actually. About 4 months to be exact.

I’m not really sure what happened but I just woke up one day and decided I didn’t want to write that day. And then…that feeling just kept happening. I kept telling myself that was okay. I didn’t have to write. I didn’t even have to blog any more. It was something fun but I just couldn’t focus anymore on posts to write so it was okay to just stop trying to quit. 

I’ve had several people ask me why I stopped blogging. I could never come up with an answer to that. But it made me feel really good to know that people noticed and people cared. People I never even knew were reading my blog. It made me want to start back up. But I didn’t. I continue to give myself reasons why I couldn’t write whenever it would come to mind. 

 

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the things I start and the things I stop and my reason why for all of it.

The other day I was looking in Lifeway for a new devotional. I came across one called Looking for Lovely by Annie F. Downs. I read the introduction of a devotional before deciding whether it is something I am going to buy or not. I want to know what the devotional has to offer. Well the introduction to this one really stuck with me.

She talks about how in many situations she is a quitter. That hit home!!! I feel like I have all of these interests but then after just a few short months… I give up. I quit. I make excuses why it was okay to quit. I’ve always kind of thought in the back of my mind that I was a quitter but I never had the courage to admit it. Until now.

I am a quitter and honestly I HATE that!

I HATE quitting. I HATE that I give up on myself and the things that I enjoy so often at the first hint of a struggle.

 

Looking for Lovely

I’m only three days into this journey of looking for the lovely but I’ve already learned so much. I’ve learned that without things being hard, without having struggles, my character can never fully develop. I won’t grow. I won’t become the person that God is calling me to be.

So today, I’ve decided to make some changes. I’ve decided to go back to some things that deep down are important to me. I’m picking them up and I’m deciding to NOT quit!!!

In order to help keep myself accountable I’m going to share with you the two things I’m picking back up and focusing on not quitting this time around.

 

  1. Blogging: I truly do love writing on here. It’s something that I enjoy and such a good outlet for me. I’m done making excuses of why I can’t come up with something to write. Because if any of you know me personally….you know that I ALWAYS have something that I want to talk about. 🙂
  2. Being active (at least 3-4 days a week) and Eating Better: Last August I started a round of the 21 Day Fix and LOVED it. I loved how it made me feel. I loved having the power over the foods I ate instead of feeling like food was controlling me. I loved the shape I was getting in physically and I loved what it was doing for me emotionally and even spiritually. At the beginning of February I kind of hurt my back so I took a couple weeks off and towards the end of that couple weeks, I found out I was pregnant. So there came yet another excuse of why I didn’t have to work out or eat healthy. Well….I’m done with those excuses. I want to have a healthy body for myself and for the baby that I’m growing inside of me. I want to be a great example to my girls on how to treat our bodies.

 

Here is my prayer for myself and for you.

Lord Jesus, I want to thank you for being a great God. Thank you for loving me enough to not let me keep quitting. Thank you for your grace and your patience as I have continued to come up with excuse after excuse in so many areas of my life.  I ask you today to keep the passions and desires that you have stirred in me recently alive and burning. I ask that you help me to dig into you when things start to get hard. I ask that you continue to have patience with me when I do fail, because I know that will happen. I ask that you help me to get back up on my feet during those times and to not let them keep me down. Thank you for guiding me to a devotional that speaks straight to me. Use this and your Word to guide me in the direction that YOU have called for my life. I also want to ask that use this post to reach anyone who might be feeling the same way about themselves. Light a fire under them and give them the courage to say NO to quitting. Thank you for being a great and loving God.

 

I love you. Amen

50 Things to Tell My Daughter on Her First Birthday

I started writing a letter to my little girl a couple of weeks ago when she turned ONE years old. It was a little difficult to write and has taken me some time but I have finally finished it. Read below to find out the 50 things I hope to teach my sweet girl as she continues to grow up.

 

A Letter to My Little Girl on Her 1st Birthday

My Sweet Sadie Grace,

Where has the time gone? I feel like it was just yesterday that I walked into the doctor’s office and they told me that I was going to be delivering you that next day. You see, I was only 39 weeks at that appointment but my blood pressure was pretty high. They knew that you were looking great but they were a little concerned about me. So they decided they wanted to induce me to reduce any possible complications.

I remember asking the lady at the desk, “So I’m coming in tonight and not leaving until I have my baby?!” I called your daddy and it was go time! I went into work and wrapped things up there. Then I came home and we got our things and made sure our home was ready for when we brought you back. We went in to the hospital that night and they induced me the very next morning. Once that happened, you were ready to come out! It was a quick and easy delivery (well as easy as delivery could be)!

At 2:24 pm on Friday, February 20, 2015 you arrived into this world and your daddy and I were blown away by your presence. You are our little miracle and we couldn’t be more grateful to be your parents! You are an incredible gift from God and I don’t want you to ever forget that.

Here are some things that I hope I teach you and that I want you to remember for the rest of your life.

50 Things For Sadie

  1. God created you-every part of you and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalms 139:13-14 is the verse to go to if you need to be reminded. It also states there that God’s works are wonderful and baby girl-you are one of God’s works!
  2. You are unique. No one in the entire world is like you!! Embrace that and love that. Be YOURSELF and don’t compare yourself to others. It will cheat you of the glorious gifts God gave you.
  3. You will not succeed at everything you do in life and that is OKAY and just the way it should be. If you never failed you wouldn’t be reminded of your need for Christ. We all need Christ and we all need the reminders to turn to him.
  4. Be the girl who is kind to everyone. Smile and say hello to those around you-even strangers. You don’t know what they are going through and they might need a little extra love.
  5. Love everyone around you. You don’t need to agree with their actions, but you are called to love them and to be kind.
  6. Love your body and treat it well. Exercise, eat foods that make your body strong and take care of yourself. Your body is God’s temple and we are called to take care of his temple.  1 Corinthians 6:19
  7. Have a treat every once in awhile. It’s good for the soul!
  8. Dream! Set goals and go after that dream. Sometimes setting small goals at first helps to get you on your feet and started. Starting small is never a bad thing!
  9. Stepping out of your comfort zone is hard but worth it. Try it, you’ll be surprised at the way God moves when you step out of your own way.
  10. You will NEVER do ANYTHING that will stop your Heavenly Father, your daddy or I from loving you. We will always be here for you no matter what!
  11. Read God’s word. It has the answers for everything you will ever face. If you can’t seem to find those answers, look harder into scripture. I promise it’s there.
  12. Serve others. Put them ahead of yourself. It’s completely worth it and what God has called us to do.
  13. You are stronger than you think you are.
  14. There will times in life where you feel completely helpless. Turn to God and let him carry you through those times. He won’t let you down.
  15. Be honest and loyal. Always tell the truth and stand by those around you.
  16. Be the friend you want to have.
  17. Money does not bring you happiness but God brings you joy. Fill yourself with Him instead of money.
  18. Avoid debt at all costs. It will rob you of a lot of things!
  19. Love is a CHOICE-not a feeling. Go read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 if you need a reminder of exactly what love is.
  20. Your daddy is an extremely hard working man who loves us so much!! He would do anything for our family and he loves Jesus with his whole heart. Find a man like your daddy to marry. You won’t regret that decision!
  21. Take time for yourself every once in awhile. It’s important to replenish yourself so you can fully invest in others.
  22. Understand your worth. If someone isn’t treating you like the daughter of God that you are-move on. They aren’t worth your time. Don’t ever let being “alone” push you into a relationship with someone like that.
  23. Take ownership of your actions. If you did something wrong, own it and apologize and make it right.
  24. Forgive everyone no matter what they have done. God has forgiven us and he calls us to do the same. Forgive even if the other person never says sorry.
  25. You can’t change those around you. You aren’t responsible for their actions or words but you ARE responsible for how YOU respond and act.
  26. Be proactive, not reactive.
  27. Take time to really listen to those around you. Don’t always be the person that has to have the last word.
  28. Pray. It changes things.
  29. Learn how to take an interest in others and don’t turn every conversation back to you. No one wants to be around someone who doesn’t take an interest in them and their life.
  30. Show God’s love through how you treat those around you.
  31. It’s okay to cry.
  32. Try to smile daily. There is something in every day that you can be thankful for. Some days you may need to look harder than others, but I promise it’s there!
  33. Play outside.
  34. Find a topic you enjoy reading and then READ.
  35. Find an activity or a hobby that you really love and go after it with your whole heart. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something.
  36. Work hard at everything you do. Remember that you are working for God and to bring him glory. Colossians 3:23
  37. Patience will get you far in life. Learn that from your daddy-not me!
  38. Let the little things go. Don’t hold onto grudges. They aren’t worth it.
  39. Being strong-willed (aka stubborn) can be a good thing, but it can also be a bad thing. Learn the difference and back down when necessary.
  40. Learn how to laugh at yourself. It will make life more enjoyable.
  41. Take time to sit in God’s presence daily. Read his word, talk with Him and listen for Him.
  42. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. James 1:19
  43. Surround yourself with friends who will push you towards God, not away from him. Be the light to those who are far from Him, but don’t let them bring you down to the darkness.
  44. Be polite and have manners.
  45. Know what you believe and why. Then, stand up for that at all times.
  46. Love yourself-God doesn’t make mistakes. There is nothing wrong with who you are. Embrace your differences and learn to love yourself in the way that God loves you.
  47. Your attitude affects those around you. If you think positively, more than likely, you’ll turn their thoughts into positive ones as well.
  48. There are times when life isn’t fair or there is something that you don’t want to do. That’s just how life goes. You don’t always get what you want. Sometimes, you need to do things because it makes those around you happy. Life is not all about you.
  49. Be silly and don’t take life too seriously.
  50. I will always want to talk with you and I will never stop loving you!

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Happy Birthday my sweet girl. I thank God daily for blessing me with you and allowing ME to be YOUR mama. I love you Sadie Grace, always!
Mama

7 Things to do During Nap Time

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7 Things To Do During Nap Time

Being a mom can be tiring! We can get so caught up in taking care of our families and homes that we tend to lose ourselves. This is something that I’ve definitely struggled with at times. When we get caught up in this but don’t take any time for ourselves, we tend to not be the best moms and wives we can be-the ones God has called us to be. So I’ve created a list of activities that I like to do during Sadie’s nap time. These are ways that I can invest in myself so that I’m refreshed and ready to love and invest in those around me.

I have found that nap time is the best time for me to invest in myself and get stuff done. I’m not a huge morning person so I only wake up about 30 minutes to an hour before my little one gets up. In the evenings, my husband is home and I want to spend time with him so I don’t get a lot of alone time (because I choose that) and I also don’t get a lot of other stuff done. So nap time presents itself as the perfect time of day for me to get stuff accomplished.

7 Things To Do During Nap Time

Take a bath.

Something that I really enjoy doing is taking a bath. That is my way to relax and decompress. I often will take a good book into the tub with me or sometimes I’ll move our little tv into the bathroom and I will watch Netflix. I normally do this at night time but have found that another perfect time to do this is during my little one’s nap time. By doing it at this time of the day, I’m not taking away time spent with my hubby but I’m still enjoying all the same effects!

Read a book.

I LOVE to read. My favorite type of books are fiction books. I love finding a good story line and getting lost in the book. One of my FAVORITE authors is Karen Kingsbury. You should definitely check her out! I also really enjoy books that challenge me and grow me in my faith and in myself. Nap time is the perfect time to get caught up in a good book without any distractions! It’s also a great thing that you can take into the bath with you. But sometimes, I just can’t seem to find a good book so….

Find a series on Netflix you like and watch it.

Netflix and I have a love/hate relationship. I can very easily get caught up in a TV show and then somehow end up losing my whole day! But, I love that Netflix has shows that start from season one. Nothing like being able to watch a show from the very beginning!

Take a short nap yourself.

It’s important to make sure that we are caught up on our sleep as well. Being a mom is extremely tiring some days! It’s okay to take a nap when your little ones are sleeping.

Find something you really enjoy and make time for that.

I have recently started to blog. Nap time is the perfect time for me to sit down at my kitchen table and blog. I turn on some soft music from Pandora and sit in the sunshine and let my creative juices flow. I love this time that I use for myself!

Workout.

I have found that working out brings me a lot more joy than I would have ever thought. It let’s me release endorphins and gets my blood pumping. I feel so accomplished after I’ve completed a workout. Doing this at nap time ensures that I can get it in without any distractions. My personal favorite is the 21 Day Fix workout videos. They are 30 minutes and I love them! I feel challenged but can also step it back if I’m just not feeling it that day but still want to get something in.

Do something on your TO DO list.

We all have this. A list of items that you need to get done. Sometimes I have a list for a specific day and other times I have a list of something I want to get done that week or even month. Nap time is the perfect opportunity for me to get something on it checked off.

 

I have found for myself that I feel the best when I do a variety of these things during nap time. There are definitely days where I get caught up in Netflix and that’s all I do…for days even. But, when I do a variety of activities during nap time I am the happiest. I feel accomplished and I feel like I have invested in myself. When I am feeling this way, I can be a better mom to Sadie. Every day I want to be the best for my little one and for my husband. I want to be able to give the best of me to them and take care of them and our home in the best way possible. I want to honor the job that God has given me. I want to bring Him glory through how I live my life.

 

I’d love to hear from you!! What are some ways that you invest in yourself? What are some of your favorite Netflix shows? What books would recommend that are easy to get caught up in? I am always looking for new TV shows and books to read. Plus I love to hear how others are being creative and investing in themselves!!

 

kylie

My Guest Post on My Long Distance Marriage

Hey everyone! I’m so excited to share with you that today that I am doing my very first guest post! I am sharing a little bit about my temporary long distance marriage over at Sobremesa Stories! My good friend Lauren does an amazing series called Womanly Wednesday and she asked me to write about the time when Brad got moved (for his job) to North Carolina. That was one of my most challenging seasons in life but also such an amazing season in my life as well. Go check out her blog and read my story! Also, make sure to check out her other amazing content! I love her heart and the things that she has to offer and I know you will too!

Womanly Wednesday

 

kylie

Real Talk: Learning to Love Yourself

I am someone who goes to the store to buy everything! You name it, I’m probably getting it from the store. Sometimes I will get the urge to attempt to make something on my own (curtains, tomato sauce, homemade food for Sadie (instead of store bought), a craft, my own garden, etc.) The enemy almost immediately casts doubt upon my heart about myself. He lies and tells me that I can’t do it. I’m not good enough. I should leave it to my friends who are really great at that kind of thing. These thoughts push me to compare myself to my friends and I start to envy their talents and wish that I was different, better.

Learning to Love Yourself

 

I’ve got news for you friends, COMPARING IS A TERRIBLE THING!!!!! This will make you miserable and start to resent those around you that you are comparing yourself too. God didn’t make us someone else. He made us exactly as He wanted and that is PERFECT!

Psalms 139:13-14 says, “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous-how well I know it.”

This is the verse that God brings back to my mind when I start to doubt myself. He created me, every part of me. I am His workmanship and I am MARVELOUS! He created each and every one of you. You are His workmanship and you are MARVELOUS! Oh the freedom we have to love ourselves when we can start to glimpse ourselves through the eyes of our loving Father.

So this year I have decided to start fighting against those lies. When I feel the urge to try something new, something different from my norm, I’m going for it! I’m going to hold onto that verse and that TRUTH and I am going to be exactly who God created me to be and no one else. I am going to talk with and get help from my wonderful friends who do excel in certain areas that I want to try out. God created them exactly as they are with the talents they have and I plan on picking their brains and getting some help as I continue to grow myself.

My first step in growing myself this year was starting this blog. You can read about my insecurities about that in this post. I am so glad I have started this and I find so much joy in being able to express myself in this way.

Another thing I have recently attempted was making my own mini pancakes for Sadie’s breakfast! It may not sound like much to you but it was a big step for me. I take the easy way out (which sometimes is not a bad thing and I in no way am judging anyone else who does this-I will again I’m sure of it!) and just buy her stuff from the store instead of venturing out and trying things myself. For me, this can be a bad thing. I choose to do this because I don’t want to challenge myself or I have negative thoughts about myself and I don’t push past them.

So the other week I laid Sadie down for her nap and decided I was going to do it. I was going to make her my OWN miniature pancakes. And I must admit, I think I rocked it! Haha I was very happy with the results and I definitely plan on doing that again and continuing to try different things when it comes to her food.

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My next “big” item that I want to challenge myself in this year is gardening. I want to grow green bell peppers, red bell peppers, zucchini and squash. These are the vegetables we eat the most often so that is what I want to attempt and challenge myself too. I can’t wait for the weather to warm up so I can get started on that! If you have any advice on how to start a garden or what not to do, I’d love to hear it!

What lies is the enemy telling you? What doubts is he casting upon you that make you believe you aren’t good enough to do something? I challenge you to stomp on those lies and hold fast to God’s truth and Psalms 139:13-14. I challenge you to find a lie you’ve been believing and prove to yourself that you are good enough! What adventure will you be taking? Will it be a garden, a new blog, a half marathon, a new job? There are so many things out there for us so let’s all start believing we can do this! Let’s go for it!

 

kylie

1 Year Old Nap Schedule

Disclaimer:  This post is simply my opinion and what worked for

my family/our first (and so far only) child. Every child is different

and this may not be the exact answer you are needing/looking for.

Nap Schedule

Sadie has been a pretty great sleeper since the day she was born. We have been extremely blessed in that area. With that being said, I pretty much just let her sleep whenever she wanted or in the car on our way to somewhere else. She handled it all really well until one day, she didn’t. She was about 3 ½ months old and was starting to notice things around her. She wanted to be apart of things and hated to miss out! She would do fine in the mornings and then lose it by the end of the day. I knew something was up but I just couldn’t figure out what.

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At her 4 month checkup I asked our doctor what to do. My sweet baby who was always happy (yes, I’m that lucky parent but please don’t stop reading here because of that) had turned super fussy! What was going on?!? She suggested that I start Sadie on a schedule and stop just letting her do whatever, whenever.

Those first couple of weeks were absolutely MISERABLE! I went nowhere. I missed people. I started to resent my husband because he got to leave and go to work. He got to get out of the house and do something while I sat at home and read the books Baby Wise and Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. (I would highly recommend both of these books. I mostly used Baby Wise but the other one was super helpful as well.) I watched Sadie to learn her sleep cues. I journaled exactly what times she was waking up, eating and going to sleep. I tracked EVERYTHING! And then one day (about 2 weeks in), we had a schedule. I could start getting out of the house. It was a glorious day and totally worth my misery in the weeks prior.

With all of that being said, I would HIGHLY recommend a sleep schedule. The earlier, the better in my opinion.

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Sadie will be turning one years old this Saturday. Last week she decided that she was going to start taking just one nap a day. I know this is common around this age but I just really thought that she would be one of the children who don’t start this until 18 months. She is a kid who LOVES her sleep! She would wake up at 8:00 and be ready to go down for a nap by 9:30. So this transition of moving from two naps to one is pretty bittersweet for me. On one hand, I’m excited to have my mornings open. I no longer have to rush around to get her back home to nap. When I’m out, I know that we are good to go until her one and only afternoon nap. On the other hand, I really value the alone time I get during both of those naps-especially if I’m home for the day and not out and about. Oh well…as a parent, you do what is best for your kid. With that being said, here is what her schedule looked like at 2 naps a day and what we are transitioning to currently.

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The Zipadeezip was a LIFESAVER when transitioning out of a swaddle! You should definitely check them out! This is what she is wearing in the picture!

2 Nap Schedule:

8:00am           Wake Up

8:30am           Breakfast + 4 oz of formula

9:00am           Play Time

10:00-10:30am    Morning Nap

12:00pm          Wake Up and eat lunch + 3 oz of formula

12:30pm           Play Time/Errands

2:00pm           Afternoon Nap

3:30pm           Wake Up

4:00pm           3-4 oz of formula/snack

5:30pm           Dinner

6:30pm           Start bedtime routine

7:00-7:30 pm     Bedtime

 

1 Nap Schedule (at least what it currently semi-looks like):

8:00am          Wake Up

8:30am          Breakfast + Milk (starting to transition out of formula this week)

9:00am          Play Time/Errands/Out and about for the day

11:30am          Lunch

12:00pm         Nap Time

2:30pm          Wake Up

3:00pm          Snack

5:30pm          Dinner

6:30pm          Start Bedtime Routine

7:00pm          Bedtime

I’m sure she will continue to change things up on me but I will embrace the adventure she takes me on. I feel incredibly blessed to be this little girl’s mama and I would do anything for her. I want what is best for her and so I will sacrifice my wants to do what she needs. I sure hope this helps one of you mamas or soon to be mamas. I know I was always looking for what others were doing and never could seem to find the advice out there.

**Just today I decided to lay her down at 10:45 and hopefully get 2 naps in to fit in the schedule I had planned for us. She had other plans and slept till 1:30 and that was her one and only nap for the day. So we are obviously still working on what this new schedule will be! 🙂 Like I said above, I’m embracing the adventure she is taking me on and I am learning what works best for my kiddo!

 

kylie

Real Talk: Insecurities About Blogging

Real Talk: Insecurities About Blogging

Last week I went to write my first post for this and I’m not going to lie, it was hard. I had a really hard time focusing on one topic. I had a lot of ideas in mind and was struggling with several different things. I wanted to be open and honest with you all. In the midst of trying to write these posts, the enemy used my insecurities and started to overwhelm me. Here are some of the lies that I believed in that moment and then the TRUTHS that were spoken back into my life.

Insecurities that I struggle with when it comes to blogging (AKA: The Lies)

  • I feel insecure in my writing abilities. Sometimes I wonder why anyone would even care to read what I have to say. What do I have to offer that people would even care about? I don’t craft (very often). I am not an overly organized person (I’m organized in a way that works for us but not that I would necessarily share with others).
  • I feel insecure in myself. I will hit the slightest road bump and struggle to write something and so I’ll immediately think that I can’t do this and that I will fail.
  • I feel insecure when I compare myself to other people and their blogs. I read their stuff and am amazed. I love their writing styles, their content and the way they connect with me and I don’t even know all of them personally! I have a close friend who blogs and does an AMAZING job. Consequently, when my insecurities rise-I compare myself to her and think I have no business trying to start my own blog. I should just leave it to people like her-those with talent. They are good at this and I’m just mediocre. I should just leave it to them and not waste anyone’s time.
  • I feel insecure in my creative abilities. This blog isn’t going to be a place where you can find how to do weekly crafts. I’m not super creative. Sometimes I feel like I just barely scrape by when it comes to making things or even turning my house into a beautiful place full of things that I love.
  • I feel insecure about what I do have to say. There are things that I want to read out there. I want to know that I’m not the only one that lost her temper with her 11 month old child. I want to know that I’m not the only one who was selfish. I want to share these things with you but at the same time, that makes me insecure in myself. What will you think of me? Will you judge me? Will you say mean things?

Lysa TerKeurst Quote

Reminders God Gave Me (AKA: The Truth)

I am His child. He chose me. He gave me this desire and passion for a reason. I am far from worthless. I am his masterpiece!

God will reach me and tell me the truth in any way he chooses. In struggling to get my mind off of these horrible thoughts I first cried out to God to help and then I called my husband. He immediately left work to come home (yes I know, he is pretty awesome!) Once he was on the road he called me and spoke truth into my life. He spoke God’s truth. I fully believe that God gave him all of the words to say because they were EXACTLY what I needed to hear in that moment.

God also used Facebook to reach me. Instead of going to my bible when I had stopped crying enough to see again (yes, it was that bad), I turned to Facebook to get my mind off things. The very first thing that was on my news feed was by Lysa TerKeurst. If you have never heard of her, you should definitely go check her out!

She wrote,

“Instead of walling in our weak places today, let’s allow the Spirit to reveal

the one positive step we can take right now. Let’s wash away our thoughts of

condemnation with the warmth of His grace. Receive His power. And

rename our weaknesses, our strong places.”

Then she quoted scripture. God’s word and His abounding truth.

“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 (NIV)

You guys this is EXACTLY what we all need to remember no matter what kind of day we are having. When you are feeling broken, unworthy, worthless, hopeless, shut down or anything else-remember this verse and this TRUTH.

When we are broken and weak-God is STRONG! Therefore, when we are weak we are strong. God takes charge when we break down those barriers that tell him we can do things ourselves. He will always take over for us and help us through those hard times. Thank goodness for a gracious God who loves me and wants to remind me of these truths at all times!

So with that being said, I will continue to blog. I will continue to be me. I will choose to believe the truths and choose to take delight when the enemy attacks and tries to bring me down because God will be my strength! I will not back down. You shouldn’t either! Take delight in the fact that the Lord is your strength!

kylie